Overcoming the fear of death

Dear Sister,

This year so many people I know or know of have passed away. Just early this morning a family member passed away.

Each time someone passes away, whether I know them personally or not, I internalize it. I start to imagine the pain that their families feel and I feel a GREAT level of anxiety about how I would feel if that was me that lost someone so close to. I now find myself always expecting the worst and I can feel an unhealthy fear of death of loved ones building up on the inside of me.

How do I get past this?

Thank you in advance. 


Hey sis,
I’m so sorry to read about the losses you’ve had to endure. Losing a family member, a loved one or co worker can take a great toll on our heart. You wrote that you internalize the hurt when you think of families in pain every time someone passes away. By that I can tell you have a very kind and caring heart. To have such a loving heart is a beautiful thing. Please do not let fear creep into your heart or mind. It will only cripple you, rob you from your joy and stop you from the best thing we have to offer each other love. Unfortunately there is no quick or easy remedy to free us from the pain we feel. We have to go and grow through it until we are able to think about our loved one without the memory being connected to the pain.

When you’re going through difficult times and you’re struggling with anxiety. Start reminding yourself that you are here for a special reason. You were made exactly for a time like this. Anxiety is a tactic to keep you from pursuing all the greatness that lies ahead of you and all the great things you bring to the people around you. 
Even when you may not be aware of it. 
There are people who look up to you and they find strength and encouragement in the way you go about your life.

Replace every thought that anxiety brings with truth and try to shift your focus. Pray, dance, sing read, pour your heart out and lay all your hurt at Gods feet. Lift up your praise and thanksgiving to Him for all that He has done in your life.
At first it might feel a little unnatural, maybe even unfair because of your hurt. But please hold in mind and embrace that God is your Healer and Restorer. 
You have a sisterhood here that is always willing to help and encourage you when things do not



 I am so sorry to hear about your losses. As much as death is evident, it always takes us by surprise and is painful. As much as people can say kind words, it is a pain that only God can take away. Firstly, I am praying for you against a spirit of fear. It is a tool the enemy loves to use to unsettle us and to steal our peace. God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. You are a conqueror, always remember that and you will overcome it. It is when we are at our lowest that the enemy looks for windows to enter into our lives. God will close all those avenues today in Jesus name. I pray that God will give you the grace to guard your heart, stay steadfast, that regardless of what happens around you, you will be unshaken and not moved. We thank God that He has given you a spirit of compassion.

When the enemy cannot directly attack you, he uses situations and uses our minds! Continue to speak life over yourself and over situations. I know sometimes it looks weird speaking into something you cannot see, but you have the authority and can change your situation. Declare that your mind belongs to the Lord and that fear is not your portion.  For is it written:  For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he. Be encouraged, God loves you and has not forgotten you, you are always on His mind and He wants you to be at peace and be happy. xxx


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