Dear Sister,
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. We are both active in our church, i am a choir member and he is one of the ushers. We recently moved in together. I haven’t told anyone at church because of the fear of condemnation. However, i have recently been feeling guilty as people always refer to us as the young couple to look up to. We do hope to get married in the future when we have enough money. I know we are sinning by living together but i also no longer know what to do. Hope u can give some advice.

I would like to first say that you should not let anyone judge you on what you are doing, you should seek a counsel in who you trust, and first and foremost PRAY about the situation. If you are seeking to walk in GOD’S will then you will have to have FAITH IN what HE is capable of. Look at the reasons as to why you and your boyfriend have made the choice to move in together? Is it to save money ( that’s not trusting in the Lord to provide), is it fear of losing each other? ( well remember that fear IS NOT FROM THE LORD)…when we make our own decisions without seeking HIS guidance  you are letting God know that you do not trust Him, and have faith that He is your provider, and remember that without faith it is impossible to please God. 

I encourage you to PRAY and SEEK Him first, He will give you the answers that you are needing and ask for guidance on how to move forward with what HE is wanting you guys to do. 
Remember that you can always start over.
God bless.

The bible is very clear about fornication. It is found multiple times in the bible about a man and his wife shall cleave to one another, starting in Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. As well as in Matthew 19:5, Ephesians 5:31 and Mark 10:7.

Dear sister. It doesn’t cost any money to be obedient to God now, and have an awesome vow renewal later. The choices we make although are well intended go all wrong because we refuse to be obedient to the word of God. Be obedient and continue to be a blessing to others who are looking to you to be the example. Praying for you. : )

Dear sister, you have already admitted that you know it is a sin and not the will of God. If you are both cohabiting perhaps you might need to seek the Lord and ask if you are both right partners for each other, and if he shines his light please go ahead and get married. You do not need a lot of money, just make sure both your parents agree and you can get a licensed Pastor to join you or you can go to the registry and get a Man of God to bless your Union. May God shine his face upon you and be merciful to you. Please be obedient to the Holy Spirit and he will fulfil every of your heart desire. Amen

She (@angidal) is right, in Holland you can get married for free… On a monday morning… You can do the big party when you got money, this is between you and God, not you and people😉

God has called you to be obedient to him. The piece of paper does matter.

We must obey The Lord. For it is our obedience that He can bless us. You obviously have a conscience. That is The spirit of The Lord. Listen to it.

“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”-1 Corinthians 6:13; Also,- “If, we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”-1 John 1:9; “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” – 2 Corinthians 5:17

We are all sinners, saved by the Shed Blood and Grace of Jesus Christ. When we are saved, God asks for our obedience and repentance (turning away from past sins). I have two adult daughters in their 20s. I have shared with both of them that there will never be a “perfect” earthly time in their lives to get married. If they believe that God has created THE Godly man for them, then God says to marry them, rather than live in sexual immorality. Obey God. Live in God’s love 1st, then in your love for each other-as husband and wife, married in the eyes of God.

“Not enough money for a wedding” is what stood out to me the most. A wedding isn’t what pleases God, a marriage is. You can get married now (bride, groom, pastor, 2 witnesses) and have a wedding later when y’all do have enough money. What pleases God is what matters most. He will provide your every need. 

Praying for you and for your anxious heart. Believing that the Holy Spirit is guiding you in the direction that the Lord sees fit. Sending love and peace to you!

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