Hello sisters from all over.
A few months ago, the pastor from my church asked for my phone number to check up on me etc. I didnt think anything of it because he is our pastor and I respect him. He started off with just normal chit chat or would send me a msg when I did not attend the service to see if i was ok. However of late, he has started sending me “goodmorning and goodnight” messages aswel as messaging saying how good i looked at church. He has also asked for us to meet up for lunch for bible study which I find odd. I dont know if i should tell anyone about these messages or what to do. Hes married ( also has a daughter my age) and dont want to ruin his reputation just incase hes just being friendly. Please advice me.
If I were her, I would meet for the bible study just to see what he is really about. If he does make a move on her she can then decide if she wants to tell someone (which she should) these types of things happen more often than people realize. She should talk with someone that is well trusted. Probably another woman. If he made a move on her, and she is his daughters age than most likely he has done this before. Pray, pray, pray that he is exposed for who he really is. God sees everything.
Praying for her! So wishing I had some great advice! All I can say is that honesty may be the best option. Even though it may feel super uncomfortable maybe she could tell him that she appreciates him checking in her but that the volume of messages are making her a little uncomfortable and maybe she will let him know in the future if she needs his assistance. I hate to say it, but it does seem highly inappropriate to me and I don’t think I’d be able to go to church there anymore. 😞