I am going to be honest and would like some advice. I am going to be honest. I have slept with all of my bf’s and its not something I am proud of. However, in this modern day society its difficult not to when you are in a relationship. You read about alot of women waiting on their husbands but is that really still possible? Also how do i stop fornicating with my boyfriend if we have been doing it for a long time?
My Dear Sister,
We ALL have to deal with fornication. And we are weak. We must be strong in the Lord though. If you are a believer, then you should know that ALL things are possible with God! We are NOT to conform to modern day society and the ways of the world. And the Word of God I will pass on to you, just as it was passed on to me, will Warn, Enlighten, Equip and Prepare you. If it moves you to fear the Lord thy God and trust Him above everything else, and want to keep HIS Commandments and please Him- I have done my job. GAL. 5:19-21 and 1 COR. 6:9,10 both say that “a Fornicator shall not inherit the Kingdom of God.” [Spiritual and physical fornication will not be allowed in Heaven] Ouch! That hurt me to know that if I continue to fornicate, it would be in vain, and I would miss out on eternal life with God. And I’m not going to burn in hell for nobody. 2 COR. 6:14 also warns us “not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers” so your boyfriends should not be boyfriends in the first place if they don’t believe in what you believe. If you are both on the same spiritual path, then fornication is just as serious to him as it is to you. He WILL understand and want to wait also. If he doesn’t want to honor you or respect your morals and cannot wait until you are married, then sadly – He is NOT the One! Hold on though, the Bible also says in 1 COR. 7:9[NIV] “But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” But, Be Very Careful whenever deciding to get married, that you do Not enter into marriage lightly. Consider all just causes of why you shouldn’t be together. If you have considered the WHYs and why nots, talked with God about it, and not based your relationship on/around its physical perks or society’s fleeting standards, then by all means, Get Married and stop the fornicating. The other way to stop the fornicating is to accept the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of God, as your personal Savior and His Holy Spirit will bring about that change inside you. You cannot stop or fix yourself on your own. The closer you walk with God, the more you desire to DO what thus says the Lord.